My wedding cost 2.5k, including everything - food, flowers, DJ, my dress and DH's tux. It was a beautiful ceremony at a lake. I honestly don't know HOW to spend 20k, or even just 10k if I had that kind of money! And I thought we spent more money than we should have, ha!
HIG - only $40 of the $20,000 is an investment in the marriage (I think thats about what a license cost). The other $19,960 is the cost (not investment) of pretty and fun stuff.
Keep in mind that this is the average price and that a few very expensive weddings will skew that high. The median price is much more realistic measure of a typical wedding and median costs are closer to $10-15k range.
Weddings might be one of the biggest rackets out there - especially considering how may ultimately fail. I mean, would you invest 20k into something that had a 50% chance of total loss? Perhaps a jaded way to look at it, but marriage is also a financial agreement between two parties.
in Canada, the average wedding cost 50K